The Gift of a Monthly Cycle
With International Women’s Day upon us, I felt moved to say a few words about periods.
This may read a bit clunky, after-all I am a man. I don’t have to suffer the struggle of a monthly cycle, the range of emotion from passion to frustration to despair, the physical pulls for perhaps food or wild sex, or simply touch, and on to exhaustion.
I regularly encounter women who are embarrassed by their period, there is shame attached. Naturally around this time you may feel emotional and more sensitive, but you can work here in this place. You meet your shadow each month. The shadow is not separate to your cycle, they are one and the same.
She is fully alive and flowing, sensitive and sensual.
From a male perspective, the period can make being with a woman most challenging, but also most fulfilling. We love you because you are woman. The passion and flow of the heart, of creativity, of joy and frustration is the beauty of womankind.
The physical aspect of blood, and cramps, is all so natural and wonderful. From your period knickers (yes I love that word), to the clothes you feel comfortable in, cool in, or warm enough in. This is real life, embody that journey, embrace all of you.
Sex during your period can be wonderful, for both sexes when we surrender. When is there a better time to be fully, deeply with a woman but when she is truly embodying the transition of rebirth and release. She is fully alive and flowing, sensitive and sensual.
What a great time for a partner or friend to nurture and support his woman, tend to her, care for her, and embrace her when she may want to rip his head off. The lesson for man is to stay centered (not easy), not be pushed around by this wild woman, not question his love for her or hers for him, but to stay grounded. I don’t claim to be this solid all the time, but that’s the journey.
Enjoy this “period” in life, because it will pass, and your sense of being a woman will change, at times you’ll miss that connection, that cycle. Remember you are exactly where you’re supposed to be, and your monthly cycle of purge and release can work for you or against you.
Be good to yourself today.
Image by @viola.illustration
(I run an 8 week Shadow Integration Course for men and women, for further details on this work click here for the women’s page. Men’s page under construction, feel free to get in touch for details)