There Is No Spoon – Part 3 – Becoming Whole

There is no spoon – Part 3 – becoming whole

Continuing from Part 2 that you can read here

Moving on from what we have learned in the first two parts: absolutely everything is a mirror of our consciousness, and even the heavy experiences were agreed to by our higher self as a learning experience, the purpose of this article is practicality, what can we do day to day to make use of that awareness?

How you respond to circumstances is what determines your state of being. – Bashar

What you can do to begin

• Write a list of people who come to mind right now in your life, ten to fifteen people, close people, you see regularly, or anyone who pops into your mind, can be friends, co-workers, family.
• Underneath each person, list the things that make you uncomfortable about that person. I mean “he seems very opinionated, or argumentative”. Things that you don’t like about each person. Now this may be your best friend, that’s okay, but there are things about even those closest to us that we dislike.
• As you work through these people you’ll start to see that they will all share a few of these traits you dislike.
• As you continue to work through, if you have a little self awareness you may also start to see that you have these traits too although they may express themselves in a different way.

My video discussing this subject

You will begin to see, by looking at those around you, you are basically looking at yourself, reflected in others. We’re all seeing the same things, we all like and dislike variations of the same qualities and character traits. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, this is part of the journey home, to acknowledge and embrace all of who we are, not just the aspects our ego or society finds acceptable.

The actions that these people do, which you dislike, are irrelevant. You can’t change them, changing others is not the point. The only relevance is your feeling. So you may think “but I don’t insult waiters in the restaurant!”. What I say to you is “What feeling does this act bring up in you?” It could be a feeling of when you were a child and a parent did exactly this or something very different, the act is irrelevant although it may come to you. The feeling is important.

into action

1. Acknowledge – It’s very easy to get carried away with our emotions and the external situation, look around you, look at the world protesting, blaming bankers, politicians, parents etc etc. This is all projection of inner turmoil. So everything we see is a projection of our own state. But the stronger the charge of emotion, the more desparate a piece of our being needs healing. So to observe the news and not be bothered means the item being presented is still a reflection of you, but if there is no charge of anger or outrage etc then you are in a relatively good place. If the charge is strong I try to instantly look within, if there is no charge, but I become aware that this is still my reflection, I still look within as I aim to heal all of my reflection, not just the highly emotional parts. I don’t wish to tip along through a mildly comfortable life, I seek true freedom so why not push the boat out and heal it all, raising our vibration in all areas?
2. Observe within – This is key. When you are in pain, and you meet a friend, you seek support, you don’t want the friend to be checking their phone and looking around, you want full attention, you want them to be there for you, to care about you, to be fully focused on you to listen and hear what you need to say. So when you look within, observe that initial charge of emotion, lets say the anger at your boss, observe yourself, be still. Give yourself the very same focus and attention you would want from your friend as I mentioned above. Not a fleeting “How do I feel?”. As you remain present your feelings will change, you’ll begin to see what is under that anger, you may see a memory of where it is from. Honour yourself, give yourself that time and attention.
3. Be grateful – Our lives are not random, there are no coincidences. We are being shown our reflection constantly so we know where we are emotionally and spiritually, so we can choose to accept or raise the vibration to a higher experience. The anger at your boss is a gift. In this moment your higher self has sent you a challenging experience, that you can learn from, heal the pain associated with it, and be freer, lighter as a result. The pain you feel is a piece of you that is being returned to you. Distraction or reaction results in this piece being rejected yet again, until the next time. Now is the time to accept and welcome these parts of yourself, to become whole.
4. Love – a fleeting “I love you” is not enough, disconnected repetition of a mantra is not what you want when you meet a friend for support. This can take practise, to feel love for the broken parts of yourself is not an easy instant state. Practise, just keep going, keep trying, work through the four steps and let go. It is the ego that wants our lives to be a certain way, level of success, wealth, partner. When we truly see how vulnerable we are this can be challenging to the ego. By all means we can take steps later to improve our lot in life, but in these moments of healing it is important to embrace ourselves, however broken or in pain we may be. It may help to see this pain as a small child, perhaps you as a small child, would you scold it or would you happily embrace it and love it regardless of its acting out.

Your feelings are not about changing the rest of the world so that you feel better, your feelings are an indicator to you to observe and heal yourself if there is a charge that doesn’t feel good, or continue creating and enjoying what does feel good. Remaining in love and gratitude for longer and longer periods will continually heal the pain that is sent back to us to be healed and also send out the enjoyable vibrations to generate yet more positive experiences. If we respond to a situation with anger and pain, we are generating yet more anger and pain, not to mention rejecting that piece of ourselves that seeks reintegration and love. This work in my awareness is the same as a soul retrieval in Shamanism.

How you respond to circumstances is what determines your state of being. – Bashar

the Basics

1. Acknowledge – See the outter situation that is being presented to you, this is not chaos, this is a learning opportunity.
2. Observe within – Rather than becoming lost in the distraction of the outter situation, look within and observe your own feelings, not just for a fleeting instant, be patient, observe yourself.
3. Be grateful – give thanks to your higher self for giving you this opportunity to receive and heal a part of you that you once cast out.
4. Love – Beneath the reaction you initially had to the outside situation, is often our own pain. Embrace this piece of you.

Circumstances don’t matter, only your state of being matters. – Bashar

Go easy on yourself, people can tend to get overwhelmed with this information at the beginning and when they have a bad day get frustrated and confused not knowing how or why it reflects them. Don’t worry, if it’s too much, forget about it and move on. Of course I still have my argumentative moments, I still get confused and frustrated, but I also have the moments of clarity when I have the option to step outside that habitual pattern, and break that cycle. You won’t grasp this instantly, bit by bit, little by little, through self observation you’ll begin to see the reflection is a gift to you and bit by bit you will feel, you will know in your core, that part of you is returning home. You are receiving your lost self, the neglected and rejected pieces of your soul from this and previous lives. This is the home coming. This is the freeing of darker energy as we rise up into the fifth dimension.

To learn more on this topic you can watch my video near the top of this page, or read Part 1 of this series here, and Part 2 here. Please sign up to my newsletter in the box below to receive future videos and articles delivered to your inbox.